Neptune is the foggy planet, ruling illusion, delusion, and deception. Sometimes, this is self-deception, self-delusion, and we refuse to see what’s right in front of us. Neptune also rules our spiritual selves, and what we connect with spiritually.
In love, this means Neptune can govern soul connections where we feel a strong link to someone on a soul level, but also not seeing people for who they really are and falling for the wolf in sheep’s clothing.
Transits, Neptune, and Love:
Falling for the very-wrong person often comes in transits, with hard aspects (conjunctions, squares, oppositions) by transit (moving) Neptune to the natal Sun, Moon, Venus, or 5th or 7th house ruler of cusp.
Care must be taken during those times to avoid falling prey to someone who does not have your best interests at heart (at all!). This can also sometimes happen with hard aspects involving Neptune and progressions, particularly when the progressed 5th or 7th house cusps or progressed Venus conjunct, square, oppose natal or progressed Neptune. It can show finding a soul mate, or finding that wolf!
Usually which manifests depends on what predispositions are in your natal chart, as well as what’s going on with the chart of the person you meet and in your composite chart together. If there’s lots of hard Neptune, water energy, or 12th house energy, that increases the likelihood.
Neptune & Synastry:
When you have a Neptune connection with someone in synastry, there can be some trouble seeing each other as you really are. This can be a good thing sometimes, and it can inspire you to rise to the level you feel they’re at.
But, it can also show that you’re not being realistic at times, and that this is someone who can easily deceive you, and you won’t figure it out until it’s too late.
The Neptune connection does show someone you have a soul connection with though, for better or worse, and this may be someone you have to learn a lesson from, even if it’s not meant to last a lifetime.
To counter Neptune, Saturn and some earth energy is usually needed. Saturn is the planet of reality and is super grounded, as is earth energy, so this helps to balance out the flowy energy of Neptune.
Having strong Saturn or lots of earth energy in your natal chart can help you to avoid falling for the wolf; having positive Saturn transits while undergoing hard Neptune transits can help as well; and having a strong Saturn or wolf energy in the composite chart can help you both to see each other realistically and ground the spiritual connection.
If there’s no Saturn or earth energy? Maybe hide in a closet!
Suggested Reading: The articles in the love astrology series: Mars, Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus, Pluto, Chiron, the 12th house, eclipses, retrogrades, the Lunar Nodes, and the Asteroids of Your Name