Black Moon Lilith & Love Astrology

​Many people use astrology as a way of understanding themselves, their careers, and of course, their relationships! So for this article, we're going to explore how Black Moon Lilith can impact love and relationships in astrology.

What is Black Moon Lilith?

Black Moon Lilith is the apogee of the Moon, and in the natal chart, this position can show where you have a hidden inner power, how you can become empowered to stand up and speak out, but also where you can struggle with opposition when you do. Black Moon Lilith can also bring mystical energy as one of the astrological witches. In transit, Black Moon Lilith can make you want to stand up in the areas of life ruled by the house it's touring, and can help you become empowered and deal with challenges with aspects.

Natal & Transit Black Moon Lilith & Love

If your natal Black Moon Lilith is in the 5th house (ruling love), the 7th house (ruling relationships), or aspecting your natal Venus (especially the conjunction), Black Moon Lilith can have an impact on your love life and relationships. You may be attracted to Lilith types, and draw people to you who are strong, forceful, their own person, willful. There may be struggles over power in relationships at times, and you likely have to work on being close with those you view and treat as an equal, and who are the same with you, otherwise those power struggles can rage on indefinitely.

When transit Black Moon Lilith is in your natal 5th or 7th houses or aspecting your natal Venus, you can experience a period of time like this, where you're attracting strong, willful people, are behaving more forcefully yourself with others, or where you have opposition from others to face. Deeply embedded relationship issues may come out that you need to face, otherwise more opposition can ensue. You can desire more intensity and passion in your connections with others.

Black Moon Lilith & Synastry

Black Moon Lilith in synastry can be an interesting position when it's in play. If someone has a natal planet conjunct your Black Moon Lilith or vice versa, particularly a personal planet (the Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, or Mars), and this is a romantic relationship, this can generate some major heat, an intense, emotional, and passionate connection. But it can also bring out a lot of struggles for power, issues of domination and control (though I suppose great if this is a BDSM relationship!). If that can be controlled, it can be a transformative kind of relationship, one that could empower both of you. 

In a professional relationship, it would be great channeled into your work so you could fight against the competition together (if you avoid trying to kill each other, anyway). The best kind of relationship would be one where you're focused on a cause together as you could drive one another to take a stand and push your cause even more. In a family relationship, this kind of connection can be most challenging, and this is where the struggles for power and control are most likely to arise. 

Suggested Reading: The Black Moon Lilith series:
That Dark Lady, Lilith
Intro to Black Moon Lilith
Lilith the Witch
Transit Black Moon Lilith
Black Moon Lilith in Gemini: July 2021 - April 2022
Prominent Natal Black Moon Lilith​
When You're Cut Off From Black Moon Lilith
Houses Ruled by Black Moon Lilith

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