The planet of transformation in astrology is the planet, Pluto, and this planet is unrelenting passionate, intense energy. This energy is brought to your relationships when it's impacting your relationship areas.
How Natal Pluto Impacts Your Relationships
For some, Pluto can have a strong influence on your relationships via your natal chart. This can be the case if you have:
- Pluto in the 5th house (ruling love) or 7th house (ruling relationships)
- Scorpio 5th house or 7th house/Descendant (so Pluto rules the 5th or 7th house) or 5th or 7th house ruler
- Pluto conjunct (aligned with) natal Venus (planetary ruler of relationships) or the 5th or 7th house ruler
- Pluto conjunct the 1st house cusp/Ascendant (the 1st house cusp/Ascendant is on an axis with the 7th house cusp/Descendant so Pluto would be directly opposing)
When natal Pluto has a strong influence on your relationships in your natal chart, you can be someone who experiences major Pluto energy in your relationships. With the 5th house, you may be someone who takes love very seriously, and can be kind of intense in love. You may easily get wrapped up in love, obsessive at times, and need to learn healthy boundaries to save yourself and others from the intensity.
Love for you has to be intense and passionate, and you can easily mistake intensity and passion for love, especially with sex. But this isn't love, and that may be a lesson you have to learn in your life.
You may fall in love with Scorpio-like people, so people who are intense, serious, brooding, a bit of a mystery, or who you view as strong and powerful. You may gravitate toward powerful people, but this can put you in the cross-hairs of some people with less-than-pure intentions toward you (so again, boundaries are important).
Love may be a transformative experience for you, and this can be a good thing if you can avoid losing yourself in it. Pluto has a tendency to overdo it, and that is something you need to keep in mind.
When natal Pluto is influencing the 7th house, this can be in all relationships, though especially committed relationships and partnerships. You may seem to attract lots of people who want to dominate and control you, and you have to work harder to maintain autonomy and not get taken in by them. You may feel that boundaries are too unpleasant to enforce, but this doesn't help you, so that may be something you have to overcome.
Ultimately, you need relationships to be passionate without overtaking your life. Balance, compromise, and boundaries are crucial for you to learn. When you have healthy relationships like that, you can thrive, and grow into your own power. You may find you transform via the connections you make.
How Transit Pluto Impacts Your Relationships
Transit (moving) Pluto can also bring strong Pluto energy to your relationships, but this is temporary (whereas with natal Pluto, it's your entire life). With transit Pluto, it's only going to be for the period of time the transit is in effect, however since Pluto rules big transformation, the effect may be lasting for some time.
Transit Pluto can influence your relationships when it's:
- in your natal 5th or 7th house
- aspecting your natal 5th or 7th house cusp/Descendant, natal 5th or 7th house ruler, or natal Venus
Transit Pluto touring your natal 5th house can bring passionate love, and this can be great in existing love relationships that are already healthy. You can grow the passion between you, and you can feel much closer and take the relationship more seriously.
Bad love relationships may lead to greater fighting over power and control, and you may have to learn to stand up for yourself. This can lead to breaking up and walking away, which can be deeply upsetting, but usually leads to a major transformation of what love is for you and what it is you should actually strive for.
Transit Pluto touring your natal 7th house can bring passion into your relationships, and you can be more intense about commitment, take commitment seriously, and attract more powerful people to you. But, you may also have more fights in relationships, attract more people who want to control you, and bad relationships can be extra strained, and a transformation is required.
When it comes to transit Pluto aspects, these last for about 3 years. Beneficial aspects (sextiles and trines) can help you strengthen passion and commitment, and you can feel your connections with others are strong.
Challenging aspects (conjunctions, squares, and oppositions) can be the reverse, and you may struggle with old relationship issues, love wounds, and commitment problems. You may need to address deeply-held issues and traumas and transform (if this is something you've already done, then the hard aspects can help you actually take more control in relationships and deepen passion even more).
Will Pluto in Aquarius Impact My Relationships?
Pluto is moving into Aquarius, so a whole new set of people can get affected by this transit when it comes to your relationships. This can include you if you have:
- natal 5th or 7th house/Descendant in Aquarius (Pluto will transit)
- natal 5th or 7th house ruler or natal Venus in Aquarius (Pluto will conjunct)
- natal 5th or 7th house cusp/Descendant, natal 5th or 7th house ruler or natal Venus in Taurus, Leo, or Scorpio (Pluto will square or oppose)
These are the challenging positions for Pluto in Aquarius, so it's important you evaluate your relationships, see what's working well and what isn't, what issues you have left to work through when it comes to love and commitment, and get started on that now. Doing the work with Pluto helps to keep some of the challenges from manifesting.
If any of these positions are instead in Aries, Gemini, Libra, or Sagittarius, Pluto in Aquarius will make beneficial aspects, and you can grow closer with loved ones and more comfortable with relationships, deepen commitment, and feel more passionate.
Suggested Reading: Surviving Transit Pluto in the Houses