Wounds and healing in astrology are ruled by Chiron, and Chiron is where our deepest wounds are, how we can heal, and has intuitive, subconscious, spiritual, and empathetic energy. This energy is brought to your relationships when it's impacting your relationship areas.
How Natal Chiron Impacts Your Relationships
For some, Chiron can have a strong influence on your relationships via your natal chart. This can be the case if you have:
- Chiron in the 5th house (ruling love) or 7th house (ruling relationships)
- Chiron conjunct (aligned with) natal Venus (planetary ruler of relationships) or the 5th or 7th house ruler
- Chiron conjunct the 1st house cusp/Ascendant (the 1st house cusp/Ascendant is on an axis with the 7th house cusp/Descendant so Chiron would be directly opposing)
When natal Chiron has a strong influence on your relationships in your natal chart, you can be someone who experiences major Chiron energy in your relationships. With the 5th house, love has the capacity to both hurt and heal you. In your younger years, it's likely to hurt, and you may lack boundaries in love which leaves you vulnerable to those who want to take advantage of you. This can lead to lots of heartbreak, and you may feel love is pain.
When it's healthy and you're in a good place, love can heal you. Now, you do have to be mindful of looking for others to fix you (or reverse, you fixing others) since it's not going to work quite like that. It's more like, love inspires you, to be better, to focus on the good in you, to be brave enough to face the bad, and to recognize your self-worth.
You may fall in love with Chiron-like people, and this can go either way. You may go for lots of wounded birds and try to save them (which again doesn't work). The better option is to go for those who are already healed, and who have a quiet strength about them as a result. They may be deeply spiritual or intuitive, and can help you strengthen that in yourself.
When natal Chiron is influencing the 7th house, this can be in all relationships, though especially committed relationships and partnerships. You can attract a lot of Chiron-like people, a lot of people who are wounded, helpless, and in need, which makes boundaries very important for you. Manifesting positively, and you can attract a lot of people who are healed, enlightened, and secure with themselves. It often depends on your own boundaries and how healthy they are.
Commitment can be something that hurts or heals. If you commit to the wounded bird, you likely end up quite hurt by that commitment and may shy away from it after that. If you commit to someone enlightened, then that commitment can strengthen you and make your life more fulfilling.
How Transit Chiron Impacts Your Relationships
Transit (moving) Chiron can also bring strong Uranus energy to your relationships, but this is temporary (whereas with natal Chiron, it's your entire life). With transit Chiron, it's only going to be for the period of time the transit is in effect.
Transit Chiron can influence your relationships when it's:
- in your natal 5th or 7th house
- aspecting your natal 5th or 7th house cusp/Descendant, natal 5th or 7th house ruler, or natal Venus
Transit Chiron touring your natal 5th house can bring opportunities to heal from love issues, release love baggage, and develop a healthier connection to love. You can also work to improve boundaries in love relationships, and this can help you feel stronger. Without boundaries, this transit may bring more wounds and more challenges.
Transit Chiron touring your natal 7th house can bring opportunities to heal commitment issues or past relationships trauma. You can become more committed to those you have a good relationship with and are supported by. Bad relationships can create more wounds and deepen existing ones. Boundaries are also important.
When it comes to transit Chiron aspects, these last for several months. Beneficial aspects (sextiles and trines) can help you focus on healthy love and relationships, and you can feel more secure in your connections.
Challenging aspects (conjunctions, squares, and oppositions) can bring out existing wounds and old baggage, and you likely need to work to address this, otherwise new wounds can open up. You can be more vulnerable to being used or deceived, and once again, need to work on boundaries.
Will Chiron in Aries Impact My Relationships?
Chiron is about halfway through Aries, so many have already been affected by this transit when it comes to your relationships, and many have yet to experience it. This can include you if you have:
- natal 5th or 7th house/Descendant in Aries (Chiron will transit)
- natal 5th or 7th house ruler or natal Venus in Aries (Chiron will conjunct)
- natal 5th or 7th house cusp/Descendant, natal 5th or 7th house ruler or natal Venus in Cancer, Libra, or Capricorn (Chiron will square or oppose)
These are the challenging positions for Chiron in Aries, and you'll likely need to address love and relationship issues, work on those boundaries, and focus on what healthy love and relationships should look like.
If any of these positions are instead in Gemini, Leo, Sagittarius, or Aquarius, Chiron in Aries will make beneficial aspects, and you can improve your healthy connections with others, and feel more secure in your relationships and with love.
Suggested Reading: Astrology of Pluto & Your Relationships and Astrology of Saturn & Your Relationships