Astrology can be used for a variety of things, including when to time important events. You can assess what the transit (moving) planets are doing, and this can help you pick the right date for major milestones - like getting married!
But not every astrological event is positive for having your wedding date. Some can show major potential problems, for not just the wedding, but the marriage! So, let's review 3 different astrology times you want to avoid for your wedding date.
Why is it important?
The moment you get married is actually a chart that can be used for your relationship. Your natal chart is a snapshot of the planets and other bodies in the Zodiac at the moment you were born, and is a blueprint for your personality and life. The moment you get married creates a natal chart for your marriage, and can show the good, the bad, and the ugly!
Because of this, you want to be as careful as you can be to avoid the REALLY challenging astrology. You can't avoid everything, but you can try to avoid the worst!
Bad Wedding Astrology #1: Retrogrades
A planet or body is called retrograde when it appears to be moving backward through the Zodiac; it's not actually moving backward, but just looks that way. Normal motion is forward, so the energy can get thrown off.
Retrogrades are traditionally challenging times for starting anything new. So of course, you usually want to avoid getting married under a retrograde!
Not all are created equal though. The one you pretty much absolutely want to avoid is Venus retrograde. Why? Venus is the planetary ruler of love! So, it's pretty much rule number 1 to avoid getting married during Venus retrograde. The exception will be if both of you have Venus retrograde in your natal or progressed charts. This means the energy is natural for you, so it can actually be beneficial in that case.
Mercury and Mars retrogrades are the other dicey ones. Like with Venus, if both of you have Mercury or Mars retrograde in your natal or progressed charts, this can be beneficial instead. But if you don't, you may want to try to avoid it. Getting married under Mercury retrograde can signal issues of communication (the most important part of a successful relationship!), and getting married under Mars retrograde can signal issues with your sex life and arguments.
You should also try to not only avoid when they're actually retrograde, but also before. This is because once you progress the wedding date chart, they will turn retrograde at some point. And honestly, that can be harder to overcome than just getting married while it's already retrograde! If you're in a situation where you can only choose between just before or while it's retrograde, go with while it's retrograde.
Retrogrades aren't a 100% signal that the relationship will be challenged, but you do have to be prepared for things to be different from what you thought they would be, and for some extra bumps in the road. Preemptive measures like couples counseling can go a long way. There needs to be a lot of maintenance done on your relationship.
As for the other planets retrograde, just try to avoid right before they start or end a retrograde because again, they'll change direction when the wedding chart is progressed. If you'd like at least 30 years or wedded bliss, try to be at least 30 days out (1 day = 1 year).
Bad Wedding Astrology #2: Void-of-Course Moon
The Moon moves the fastest, traveling through the entire Zodiac in less than one month. When the Moon makes the last major aspect before leaving the sign it's in to the other transit planets, that means the Moon is now void-of-course, and will remain void until it moves into a new sign.
The void Moon is a time when the Moon is wandering, not necessarily aimlessly since it is moving toward a new Zodiac sign, but a bit shiftless. This means when the Moon is void-of-course, we're kind of acting like that, and it seen as a bad time for starting anything new. We tend to lack the energy and drive, and it's said to be a good time for anything you don't want to see through because nothing will come of it.
You can see why this would be a challenge for a wedding date! Thankfully void Moons usually only last a few hours, but they do come up several times each week.
The exception to this is if both of you have any planets at 29 degrees, which is the anaretic degree. It's the very last degree of any Zodiac sign (each sign is made up of 30 degrees), so when you have a planet at 29 degrees, the transit Moon is going to hit it right before it moves into a new sign. This means that for you personally, you're not as low energy as the rest of us. If both of you have this, then you can work through the void Moon.
If you don't, and you have to do it during a void-of-course Moon, then try to opt for a time that gives you a strong Mars. Mars is the planet of energy and drive, so that can help stir up the necessary energy that may be lacking during a void Moon.
Bad Wedding Astrology #3: Hard Neptune
This one is a personal aspect. When transit Neptune is making a conjunction (alignment), square (3 signs away), or opposition (exactly opposite) to your natal chart, that is not a great time to be getting married.
Why? Because Neptune is the planet of illusion and delusion, and puts rose-colored glasses on us. We think we're seeing things clearly, but we're not, and we usually don't realize this until after the aspect has passed. Then reality sinks in, and we have to deal with the consequences of not seeing things as they were right in front of us.
That means getting married under hard Neptune might be showing you're not seeing your partner realistically. They may not be as great as you think, not even close! And by the time you see that, you've already made it official.
This is strongest when it's to your natal Sun (self), Moon (emotions), Venus (relationships), Ascendant-Descendant (axis of relationships), 5th house cusp or ruler (house of love), or 7th house ruler (relationships).
If you can't avoid it, try to counteract it with Saturn. If you also have beneficial Saturn aspects (sextiles and trines) at the same time, this can help bring some reality into the mix and ground you. Staying grounded becomes super important, and you need to focus on connecting to the tangible.
Suggested Reading: The Love Astrology Series