Uranus & Love Astrology

​Uranus is the planet of change, ruling the sudden and unexpected, the unconventional, and the new. Uranus is the future, the one who pushes us outside of our comfort zones, and challenges us to find new perceptions. In love, this means that Uranus can shake things up in existing relationships, and bring some totally new, different people into our lives. Sometimes this is great, and sometimes this is NOT!

When you or someone you know experiences a major change in a relationship, this is often the work of a Uranus transit. Transit Uranus conjunct, square, or opposite natal or progressed Venus, the natal or progressed 7th or 5th house cusps, or the natal 5th or 7th house rulers often bring about some relationship upheaval. In some cases, this can get you out of a relationship rut, and the sudden developments and changes can offer an opportunity for you to improve your connection and become closer. But probably in most cases, the upheaval results in the breaking of the relationship as you suddenly want something other than what you have, and don’t find what you have to be fulfilling the need for the new and for greater independence.

When you experience these transits while single, this can bring a complete shift in your approach to relationships, what you want from relationships and a partner, and what you’re willing to give. This can be a time when you push back even more, craving even more space from others as you desire to be completely and totally free to be yourself, unabashed. For those of you who are the loner types, it might end up being the reverse, and the change you experience is actually being with someone. The people you attract into your life will likely be very different from the people you normally attract or are attracted to. A new relationship may also be different from any kind of relationship you’ve had before; if you’re naturally traditional, you may opt for something unconventional, and vice versa.

When you have a Uranus connection with someone in synastry, that can bring out some erratic energy between the two of you depending on the planet Uranus is connecting with. If it’s the Sun, Moon, Venus, or Mars, this may show difficulty with having stability in the relationship, and one of you may view the other as way too erratic. A certain amount of space is likely required, and you need to not smother each other. This connection can show the relationship starts hot and fast and burns out in a jiffy.

Just like with Neptune, to counter Uranus, you need some Saturn in the mix. Where Uranus is unconventional and wild, Saturn is traditional and stoic. Saturn controls the uncontrollable. Having strong Saturn in the natal chart can help prevent you from being too crazy in relationships in the first place; having positive transit Saturn aspects while experiencing difficult Uranus aspects can help bring some calming energy that allow you to find more control; and having Saturn links in synastry or the composite chart can help smooth out the erratic Uranus energy. Without Saturn? Get ready for a wild ride!

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