As we gear up for the day of love, let's continue with the love astrology focus! For this article, we're going to cover the Lunar Nodes and their impact on love in astrology.
What are the Lunar Nodes?
The Lunar Nodes are the points in the Moon's orbit where the Moon crosses the ecliptic. There are two Lunar Nodes, a North Node and a South Node, and they exactly oppose one another. The North Node represents your potential, your future, where you can find ultimate life satisfaction, but you have to grow into it and it can feel uncomfortable because it's unfamiliar. The South Node represents your past, your karma, the baggage you carry from past lives or early in this life, but it's familiar and comfortable so you can fall back to it in times of stress and upset, using it as an emotional crutch, and that has to be moved away from. For each of us, this is found through the house and sign location of each Lunar Node, as well as any planets conjunct them.
If you have your North Node in the 5th house (of love) or 7th house (of relationships), or your natal Venus in your North Node sign, this can show that you can actually create great connections with others, and you can really find yourself through your relationships. But because it's unfamiliar and uncomfortable, you'll usually avoid this for a while, until you've worked out whatever issues are blocking you, and get some courage to take the next step. If you have your South Node in the 5th or 7th houses, or your natal Venus is in your South Node sign, this can show that you're comfortable being in relationships and with others, but you may give too much and have relationship baggage that needs to be released. In your case, learning how to be in a relationship with yourself may be needed.
The Lunar Nodes & Synastry
We often attract people to us who connect with our Lunar Nodes through one of their personal planets (Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars), or their Ascendant or Descendant. For better or worse! Those who connect to the North Node tend to be people who are meant to bring us forward in life in some way. Sometimes this is a positive experience, but because of the discomfort of the North Node, it's quite often a challenging one that we can learn from. The North Node people in our lives are meant to help us grow, however that actually comes through.
Those who connect to the South Node tend to be people we're pretty comfortable with and keep coming back to, but this can serve to hold us back. Remember that the South Node governs baggage, so these are people who can bring that baggage out in not-so-good ways, or are a part of that baggage themselves. The South Node people in our lives can give us some comfort, but without other more positive connections, we're likely meant to move away from them.
The Lunar Nodes are considered karmic and spiritual in nature, so connections via the Lunar Nodes are seen as karmic and spiritual. The whole, for a reason, a season, or a lifetime? Lunar Node connections are for a reason (sometimes for a season or lifetime, but that usually depends on other factors). North Node connections are meant to be for this life for a reason, hence being unfamiliar and uncomfortable; South Node connections come from past lives with us, hence being familiar and comfortable yet with baggage.
Lunar Node Transits & Relationships
The transit (moving) Lunar Nodes can move through the houses of your natal chart and aspect your natal planets. When the North Node is in the 5th or 7th houses, or conjunct your natal Venus, this can be a positive time for relationships if you move forward as you should. Connections you make during these periods can be lasting. When the South Node is in the 5th or 7th house, or conjunct your natal Venus, this can stir up some old relationship issues, and you may fall back on bad relationship habits or run to people you shouldn't. Use the period to release the baggage and the people who aren't serving you well.
The transit planets can also conjunct your Lunar Nodes, and if your Lunar Nodes are in your 5th or 7th houses or with your natal Venus, this can bring out the relationship stuff that has to be faced, dealt with, courageously moved forward. Each year, transit Venus (the planet of love) conjuncts each of your Lunar Nodes, and when conjunct your North Node, this can be the time of year when you can open to positive relationship experiences and grow; and when conjunct your South Node, this can be the time of year when you're grabbing back people from the past or relationship vices that need to be released.
Suggested Reading: Identifying Baggage With South Node Astrology
Another Mercury retrograde is nearly here, and there's always lots of focus on what this can impact for you. For this article, we're going to go into how retrogrades can impact relationships in astrology.
What is a retrograde?
A planet is called retrograde when it appears to be moving backward through the Zodiac from our view here on Earth. It isn't actually moving backward, and just looks that way. This is reverse motion for the planets, so their energy can get thrown off. Mercury retrogrades 3-4 times each year for about 3 weeks, Venus every 1 1/2 years for about 1 1/2 months, Mars every 2 - 2 1/2 years for 2 - 2 1/2 months, and Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus, Neptune, and Pluto retrograde for months at a time every year. The Sun and Moon don't retrograde.
Transit Retrogrades & Relationships
When Mercury or Mars retrograde in your 5th house (of love) or 7th house (of relationships), or aspect your natal Venus, this can impact your relationships. You can experience challenges in existing relationships that have to be worked on, or you can reconnect with people from the past. You may become aware of old subconscious issues with Mercury, or have to deal with motivations in relationships with Mars. Communication has to be mindful, otherwise both can result in some epic fights and nasty exchanges.
Since Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus, Neptune, and Pluto are retrograde for months at a time, their impact isn't very strong. With Jupiter, you may grow lazier in dealing with issues; with Saturn, you may struggle with responsibilities; with Uranus, you may feel restless and impulsive; with Neptune, you may have a hard time seeing what's there; and with Pluto, you may want some space.
Venus is the planet of love, so Venus retrograde is the only one that impacts relationships regardless of where the retrograde is occurring or what aspects it's making. When Venus is retrograde, there tends to be all sorts of relationship problems! We often see people break up or get back together under Venus retrograde. It's usually best not to make a rash decision though, and try to understand what it is that the Venus retrograde may be trying to get you to see.
Natal Retrogrades & Relationships
If one of your natal planets is retrograde and is located in the 5th or 7th houses, conjunct your natal Venus, or is the 5th or 7th house ruler, that retrograde planet has some bearing on your relationships. It'll be much stronger when it's Mercury, Venus, or Mars, and this can show you have some big relationship or love issues to work on, and that your whole approach to relationships may be on the unconventional side. With Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus, Neptune, or Pluto, you simply may go about relationships in a slightly different way, or go for people who are a little different.
Retrogrades & Synastry
If you have Mercury, Venus, or Mars retrograde in your natal chart (so you were born while they were retrograde), and someone else's planet conjuncts, this can elevate the nature of your retrograde planet in your dealings with one another. When it's one of their personal planets (Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars) or Jupiter, they may actually like the way your retrograde planet operates. While you may normally encounter people who don't like it, they may list it as one of the things they like most about you! When it's Saturn, Uranus, Neptune, or Pluto, this can create challenges in the relationship.
Often, when you have Mercury, Venus, or Mars retrograde, you'll want to be with someone who has that same planet retrograde in their natal chart or progressed chart (which can make them comfortable with the retrograde energy now). You fit together nicely because you understand a part of your charts that is usually one of the most, if not the most, challenging part of your chart. There's less of a desire to change that as you understand it in one another. You're two strange peas from the same strange pod!
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