Astrology of Attraction

We're not all attracted to each other (well at least speaking as a woman, anyway), so how can you tell astrologically if you have intense attraction with someone? The first thing is usually a Venus and Mars connection, with your Venus connecting to their Mars or their Venus connecting to your Mars. The strongest is usually a conjunction (in the same sign), then squares and oppositions (hard aspects equal more friction = more heat!). Sextiles and trines can make attraction more pleasant and easy, but it may not have the same kind of heat as the conjunctions, squares, and oppositions.

Second, look to the 8th house. The 8th house rules sex, so when someone's planets fall in your 8th house, that can stir the intrigue. I find this is especially the case when it's Venus or Mars - and it's the strongest when it's both Venus AND Mars! When it's Saturn, it can have the opposite effect (since Saturn restricts); when it's Uranus, it can make for an experimental connection; and when it's Neptune, the attraction can have a spiritual feeling to it.

Third, look at Pluto. Pluto is the natural ruler of the 8th house, so naturally, if someone has a planet conjunct your Pluto, this can create some major heat. BUT there is an issue here, because Pluto does rule power struggles and control issues, so this isn't always a positive connection (it might be one of those relationships where you fight like crazy!).

Lastly, look at Eros (number 433), the asteroid of sex. If someone has a personal planet (Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars) or Jupiter conjunct your Eros or vice versa, that can create major attraction. 

(originally from the September 2018 monthly edition of the newsletter)